Writing your adoption story can be a great way to express how you’re feeling during the adoption process and afterward. It can also be a powerful tool to help others understand the process and find comfort.
Many adoptive parents find that writing about their adoption journey helps them to process emotions and heal, while helping to educate others about the positive aspects of adoption. Writers have taken on the challenge of writing about their experiences in a variety of ways, from journaling to publishing memoirs and children’s books.
When you write your adoption story, it’s important to remember that your child will read it one day. That’s why it’s important to keep your story respectful and honest. Avoid embellishing or recounting conversations from memory, and be careful not to share private information about the birth parents that might hurt their feelings or make them feel unwanted or unloved.
It’s also important to consider how your words could be interpreted by members of the adoption triad. For example, if you are frustrated with your birth parent’s lifestyle choices, venting to a third party about this might damage your relationship and potentially harm your child’s perspective of her birth family.
It’s also a good idea to ask for advice from other writers before you publish your adoption story, particularly if it will be seen by people outside of your family. They may be able to offer helpful suggestions about wording and editing.